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cagefree · 11-26-2007, 04:27 PM

For me, "No Contact" includes the following:
* No answered or returned phone calls
* Immediate deletion of voice messages (unheard)
* Returned mail
* Deletions of emails (unread)
* If XABF shows up at my house and won't leave I will push the police button on my new ADT system.
* No contact through 3rd parties

I do have action plans ready to follow should he try to contact me in case some crisis occurs in his life that will keep me out of it. I also have an action plan in place - a short-sweet and to the point sentence to utter should he approach me in a public place and a plan of what to do if he won't leave me alone.

It sounds drastic. Everyone's situation is different. I'm the most important thing in my life and worth every ounce of protection. It sounds so strange to do all of this to protect myself and in the next breath honestly wish him well and hope he finds and stays with recovery. Guess that's the codie in me speaking.

And after 8 months of this he finally got it and has stopped trying to contact me (knock on wood!)

11-26-2007, 04:27 PM	#8 (permalink)
cagefree I Finally Love My Life!!! Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: New England Posts: 649	For me, "No Contact" includes the following: * No answered or returned phone calls * Immediate deletion of voice messages (unheard) * Returned mail * Deletions of emails (unread) * If XABF shows up at my house and won't leave I will push the police button on my new ADT system. * No contact through 3rd parties I do have action plans ready to follow should he try to contact me in case some crisis occurs in his life that will keep me out of it. I also have an action plan in place - a short-sweet and to the point sentence to utter should he approach me in a public place and a plan of what to do if he won't leave me alone. It sounds drastic. Everyone's situation is different. I'm the most important thing in my life and worth every ounce of protection. It sounds so strange to do all of this to protect myself and in the next breath honestly wish him well and hope he finds and stays with recovery. Guess that's the codie in me speaking. And after 8 months of this he finally got it and has stopped trying to contact me (knock on wood!) __________________ Free At Last!