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tryingtoheal · 11-24-2007, 06:30 PM

Can someone please explain the 'no contact' concept to me? Does it mean that when you leave you say to them, "Unless you get help, we will have no contact until you get better..."?

Thanks for the help! I am finally just going to see my abf and officially make him my ex, soley based on his alcoholism. There are a hundred reasons, but I am planning to tell him needs to get help, and until then, we're done. I also want to tell him I will support him through it. Can this be done if decides that he will go to treatment, or should I have 'no contact' with him until he gets clean? We have no kids and I've left his house. Very little speaking has been had between us over the past two weeks, but we are going to see each other next week to 'talk.'

I know it may be enabling to support him, or is it? I am confused how to leave him and also support him. He knows he's in trouble with his drinking issues. We've shared six years together...so I want to remain his friend, but not his girlfriend if doesn't get treatment.

11-24-2007, 06:30 PM	#1 (permalink)
tryingtoheal Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 99	What does 'no contact' mean? Can someone please explain the 'no contact' concept to me? Does it mean that when you leave you say to them, "Unless you get help, we will have no contact until you get better..."? Thanks for the help! I am finally just going to see my abf and officially make him my ex, soley based on his alcoholism. There are a hundred reasons, but I am planning to tell him needs to get help, and until then, we're done. I also want to tell him I will support him through it. Can this be done if decides that he will go to treatment, or should I have 'no contact' with him until he gets clean? We have no kids and I've left his house. Very little speaking has been had between us over the past two weeks, but we are going to see each other next week to 'talk.' I know it may be enabling to support him, or is it? I am confused how to leave him and also support him. He knows he's in trouble with his drinking issues. We've shared six years together...so I want to remain his friend, but not his girlfriend if doesn't get treatment.