Good question. I don't know......
see, i married my husband before he became an addict, he loved me when he married me then became addicted to xanax. Did he stop loving me during that period when he was using? I don't know. Maybe. Maybe not. I can't tell you what any one but myself is feeling. I know that his actions were CRAPPY.....he didn't treat me the way I should be treated and he didn't respect me enough not to do what he was doing.
I do know that I didn't love myself enough not to put up with what was being dished out. Once I learned to love myself that much, life became a lot easier for me, even while he was still actively using. He eventually got tired of the lifestyle he was living and got into his own program.
Getting our marriage back on track is a work in progress. There are still a lot of issues that the both of us are working through to make it work. He's got his program and does his thang to stay clean and I have my program and do my thang to stay sane.
Best of luck to you....I hope you stick around.