Originally Posted by
rlynnh 
HOW AND WHEN DO YOU REACH BOTTOM? WHAT DO I DO TO HELP HIM AND MYSELF? TO LOVED ONES OF ALCOHOLICS-- ANY ADVICE?
I reached the bottom of my codependency after traveling a road of denial for 3 years, when my heart was utterly broken.
I was the one I needed to save. From that point onward, I set out to save my heart, my sanity and my world. Options became very black and white. I knew what I had to do, it hurt like hell, but I knew I was at stake and I needed to be my own hero.
I credit myself, Al-anon, my therapist, "codependent no-more" and SR.
I am so sorry you are hurting so much.
Congrats on being a future mom!