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Carly, your post inspired me to register so I could respond to you. I have an alcoholic father and my mother is addicted to prescription drugs. Last December I moved 1400 miles away from Youngstown, Ohio to put some much needed distnace between me and my parents.
I haven't talked to my dad in years, but my mom is an ever-growing problems. My moving was partially spurred by her second divorce and the problems I knew that would follow.
So now I'm in Texas and here come the problems. She now calls once a week or so to let me know what's going wrong and to guilt me for it. And it is so hard to deal with!!
Thank god I have good friends who offer strong shoulders and remind me that it is not my responsibility to parent my parent. They tell me that I'm not a bad person because I don't rush in to fix things that aren't mine to fix. They remind me that she's lived like this for 50 years and isn't likely to change on her own and I definitely can't change her.
I hope that helps you. You're not alone in this. ~Lisa
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