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It's important enough for your children to learn how to live
not like a slob and have self discipline, structure, and and
develope habits of learning how to take care of themselves
and to clean up thier own mess.
Bascailly they're normal shores just as in bathing ourselves
and brushing our teeth everyday..just an exstension of it.
Becuase we gernerate waste or get dirty in other ways too..
Preventive maintenance so can say.
The structure part comes in as doing it oneday at a time.
By cleaning up our own mess a little bit everyday, it's easier
and is not overwhelming.
If you look at one of the 13 traits...
"we spend much of our times cleaning up our mess" or not at all.lol
becuase we wait for it to trun into a mountain. Therefore it becomes
overwhelming and we don't do it and the mess gets bigger and bigger.
Then if we develope a manner of waitng for mom to bail me out...that carries
on into my adulthood..because it was habitual.
that's one thing my gf counldn't understand. It's not so much
about me making the kids take out the trash. it's easier for me
to do it to rather then to argue withher about it.
Obviouley, some of my helper thinks I'm a cool boss,
others gets very fustrated with me, becuase I hate
training people becuase it takes forever and I can do
the same task in 5 minutes without mistakes, So I'll
just do it myself rather then training them to releave me of
stress. it's not so much that my boss didn't give extra help
when i requested it...I have codi issues.
But ya see..that's also another codependency trait.
I end up doing everything for everyone because I rather not
argue...why ? becuase I hate confrontations from my experince
as a child. I think communications is conforntations. Or when
there's disgreements it's a conforntation.
it dosen't matter if I always want to be right, or always cave in.
I'm still avioding communications...or there's a triggers.
So when (or if) you sit down and communicate with your children.
about such matters. Yes, it's important enough to have a
family meeting to communicate.
If you just nag or complain to your children..you'll also give
mix signals. all it depends how the child process the information.
The child might also do it to aviod confrontations.
it's about communications and being persistence in a posistive way.
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