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yes, a sponsor is a giude. You don't clean their house for them.
You don't give them money..etc.
I bascailly had to shop around for one. Generally someone with years
and years of recovery under thier belt.
At first i just got a temp sponsor becuase my sponsor didn't know
how seriouse i was about recovery but he was willing to keep
the door open.
He bascailly told me to laid off of th steps for a while and just take
it easy...just do the 90 in 90. Because I mind was still in a fog so
a lot of that stuff wasn't going to make sence, plus I'll over think it.
He however made me call him everyday, buy books and notpads.
I wasn't working at the time, but I had to get up everyday and
just show up at his office..bascailly i had to get my ass out of bed
everyday. He also asked me to make a gradtitude list and keep a
journal. And he told me to give people rides to meetings and stuff like
that, becuase service work is a very important part of his recovery,
so he passed that on to me from the very start.
plus alot of old timers where looking out for me. Bascailly my gradsponsor
came to find out. He's not adbrasive but he'll tell me like it is.
bascailly he was an older gentalman..or bassilly a grandfather i never had.
Both of my gradfather passed before i was born or I was still a baby.
I was shy or had alot of trust issues and i was also young.
The elders seem to have more tolerance and patient with me.
Bascailly they listen to me whine a lot. I know where he lives.lol
Sometimes I'll just show up at his door when i had a bad, bad day or experince.
My sponsor favorite saying to me..." have you had enough yet ?".lol
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