hi, thanks for the comments
yes Kelsh you have answered my comments on chronic pain on other threads, you've been very helpful! thanks!
i do try to be caring & concerned, dad's issues are difficult at times. he had a heart attack a few years ago & i know he would probably like to come live with me, but because i have a chronic pain condition i dont' think i can care for him. i'm not sure i should try, i sort of think he needs nurses who are trained to care for him. so far it's ok, he lives alone but close to an aunt of mine who spends a lot of time with him. it seems to be working out fine for now.