Old 10-31-2007, 06:43 PM
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Yeah, setting boudaries right up front is such a good idea. Living with an addict we start to accept behaviors that we would never accept under other conditions. Set the boundaries now before things creep their way to out of control

Think about how you can take care of yourself. If he's going to meetings on his own, that could be a good sign that he wants to be sober. But if you have confidence that you can take care of yourself, you'll be able to maintain a healthy detachment from the hard road he's on. In other words, watch the money.

My (X)abf also uses cocaine. For him it aways starts with the drinking. If the (X)abf can abstain from alcohol he stays away from the coke.

I'm so sorry that you are going through this.
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