as an alcoholic, i agree with what cdk said. when i was drinking and using, i'd lie sooner than anything else. i'd do what i needed to for what i needed. granted, i didn't steal the way some folks did, but i stole in my own right. i cheated, i was a mess. when i got into recovery, i found out i didn't have to live that way. once i started working the steps, i started looking at my part. eventually, i made amends to the folks i harmed, one of whom was an ex-boyfriend who i still dearly love. he's an amazing man, and i got to set things right between us. i also learned how to live a life that's worth it, and not repeat my mistakes.
so-alcoholics, in general, have no compassion to speak of until they get in recovery. my prayers are with you and him. take care.