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So funny, I posted this last night and then was speaking to a friend this morning. She was moaning about her bf and when I asked what were the positives in the relationship, all she listed were what I would deem to be "givens". So I read her this passage and I think she might just have had a lightbulb moment. Funny how things work, no?
Anyway, I know that I spent much of my adult life accepting bad behaviour in people because the payoffs were, in hindsight, givens. Just as I would expect someone to use my toilet not crap on my floor, I would also expect my partner to treat me with courtesy, not conspire against my best interests, contribute to the household etc etc.
"Well, at least he doesn't set fire to my car" or "He locks the door when he goes out" are not entries on the positive side of the balance sheet.
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