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Hello all. Thank you for thaking the time to read this.
I am a 43 year old married man being torn apart by so many different things in my family, that I can't seem to focus on one general direction to go to start getting the life of my family back in order.
I have a 9 year old son who is the greatest. I myself do not drink, smoke, use any drugs, etc...
My difficulty is in dealing with circumstances surrounding my wife. She is 39, and loves our son dearly. However, I feel she is quite addicted to Oxycodone.
She started taking this drug in December when she was experiencing severe pain associated with a bowel obstruction. Following surgery, she had painful bouts with adhesions forming, and has remained on the drugs throughout all this time.
Her last surgery was 3 weeks ago. The surgeone did not feel that he saw any reason for her contnued pain, and suspects much of her pain is from her addiction to oxycodone. This was a comment that caused her to "pop-her-cork", and now she hates that doctor.
Following surgery, her primary care doctor suggested a course of "weaning-off" these drugs over a 45 day period. It seemed like my wife had all the intentions in the world of following the program perfectly.
She started the program taking 3 - 15mg Oxycodone tablets 5 times a day (225mg/day), which was a little less than what she was taking prior to the last surgery. This morning we determined that she is short nearly 50 tablets, and she will run out tomorrow. She insists she did not take them, and says that the pharmacy must have filled her short, or that I misplaced them, etc...
The dosages she's been taking are absolutely incredible, especially for a 120 pound woman. She has lost over 40pounds, always looks weak & pale, has a raspy voice (smokers voice, but she doesn't smoke), and is abusive, demanding, and an overall unpleasant person to be around.
For months, her life has revolved around her pills. I am so tired of this.
Most of her friends have left her. She has run off many of our employees, and is getting close to running me off.
To complicate things, she suffers from severe depression (has a strong family history on both sides of her family), and is my business partner - whom I cannot run this business without.
She has made it very clear, that I am to support her in all that she does, always!, and if I cannot, then I should get lost.
Well, this morning when she discovered she'll run out of pills on the weekend, she told me to call her doctor and make an appointment, then meet her for that appointment to explain to the doctor why her pills are missing (I lost them, or something stupid like that). Later in the day, she called and said I didn't need to go, and she'd be OK. She came home a couple hours later, and hasn't said but a couple 'short' sentences to me. It looks from her credit card records that she did not get a prescription for more pills, and I'm sure she is blaming it all on me. She won't say what the doctor said, but in any case, It looks like it's all my fault again.
Now what do I do?? what do I do when her withdrawals set in? How do I respond to the upcoming verbal abuse. What about my son? She's one of those people who is always right, and can never admit a mistake, or even say she's sorry.
I cannot leave the house - as I'm responsible for 70+ horses here and overseeing the employees. (she no longer does any work, just lays in bed). I feel sick.
I'll type more later. I can't think straight now.

Thanks for reading...