Widetrak60, what you have going on is the elephant in the room. Avoiding the situation will not make it go away a and it will get worse. Alcoholism is a disease that is progressive. If she doesn't start working on her sobriety you will eventually lost her physically.
Understanding how to talk about how you feel and what her disease is doing to you can be best understood by attending Alanon meetings and 1on1 counseling for YOU. Once you understand the disease and what role YOU are playing the sooner you can see the elephant walking on the eggshells and get rid of one and clean up the other!
Keep posting!