[Juls]

Steve,

I can uderstand perfectly about what you say that you are the type of person who seems perfect. It is important for me to give others the impression that I have no problems, while at the same time having the ability to solve all theirs. LOL

What a joke. Also, when you give for others who cannot return that, it sets us up for disappointment. I really had to learn how to hold myself back, and when I did give to make sure I had no expectations that the other person would do anything for me. I have learned to become more selfish, and that is a good thing.

I have also learned that I don't have to seem "perfect" all the time to others. I don't worry so much what other people think. It is still hard for me though to talk about my problems. Like a few weeks ago I had so much anxiety I could hardly talk or do anything. I didn't come on the boards, and I could hardly go to work. After the episode was over I could talk about it, but now while I was in it.

It sounds like you have a good therapist.

Thank you for your contribution to our forum.

Juls