Thanks everyone for your support! I do know that the best thing for me is move on and never look back. He's been calling me and leaving messages, and it makes me sad to hear how much he's hurting... but like many of you have said, he made that choice to actively drink and deceive me, I couldn't stop him if I tried... as for my calling all the hotels, it actually wasn't as extreme as I made it sound.. he works for a certain big-chain hotel, so when I was making my calls, it only consisted of four hotels in seattle, and two here in my home town... there were other occasions in the past where I suspected bad behaviour, but each time he would tell me that i was being paranoid, and that i need to trust him... so i needed that proof that he was lying, so I can leave him knowing that I did try to make this work and I did try to support him, but that in the end, it was him that was destroying the relationship.