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Old 08-31-2007, 05:05 AM
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hope-faith
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Lyralee, I'm so sorry for your situation. I'm glad you had the strength to do what was best for you!!

Originally Posted by prodigal View Post
Calling all the hotels in town to locate him is indicative of codie (codependent) behavior on your part. Please give Al-Anon a shot because all you can do is work on yourself. He alone has to make the decision to work on himself.
Prodigal, this part I don't quite understand. If Lyralee didn't contact the hotels, she would never have discovered the truth. Without truth, you can't make the best decision for you -- not the A -- but the non-A. While I'm still learning about co-dependency, I have trouble seeing this as wrong. If Lyralee hadn't take these steps, she would have been duped that he was in Seattle with friends. But now she can use the facts to move ahead for what is best for her -- kicking him out. I would think that codie behavior would have been the opposite; letting him come back either due to believing his story or "that he has changed" and won't do it again.

But, like I said, I have a lot to learn, so I wanted to ask!!
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