Alcoholics in my family - both sides, all the way back (and out... cousins, etc.).
Mr. Big - lots of A's of many flavors.
We both cleaned up before having kids - no drinks, no smokes, no drugs... nada.
Both our kids are addicts/alcoholic.
But....
I wouldn't trade my kids for ANY THING IN THE WORLD.
I wouldn't trade my grandkid (both parents addicts) for ANY THING IN THE WORLD.
I am glad my alcoholic parents met, married and decided to have me and my sibs.
And yes... I would do it all again.
There are more problems in this world than alcoholism. Each challenge I've faced has made me more and more who I am today. I like me. I like Mr. Big. We are who we are.
If you love children. If you think you'd be a pretty great dad. If your wife wants a family... then I think you should trust yourself and the universe.
(((hugs)))