[lostnfound1961]

I am 45 and have a retarded brother who is 7 years older than me. My mom died about 16 months ago and now my sisters and I are intrusted to take care of him. I love him dearly but he is making me crazy. His retardation is mild so he is someplace between a man and a little boy. He also has issues with obsesive compulsave behavior and is codependent.

We had him in an appertment and I did all his shopping and stuff for him but it got to be too much and the people around him were taking advantage of him. He also seemed to be getting hurt a lot (heavy things he stacked too high falling on him) and he was getting sick a lot because he wouldn't let us clean in his appartment and he didn't do it either. (Ditry dishes and counters and piles of stuff everyplace) He Would use toylet bowl cleaner on his counters when he did clean them and and not wipe the cleaner off. He has issues with braking things and having a major fit if you don't come over right now or call the cable company to get right over. This stems from my mom giving into what ever he wanted so he would stop rocking the boat.

We put him in a group home about three months ago and this has been a good thing. He has made friends and gone from calling me 15 times a day to 3 or 4 and in some cases, not at all. I am not keen on the spacific place he is, in because I don't feel they care about the people they house. I noticed since he moved in he has not been sick (that was a lot of the calls) Now his calls are about how bad the place is and how the other people are treating him bad. My sister goes over and he is having fun with another client and then he calls me and tells me how this person makes him nuts and he wants him to go away. He will go over the same stuff over and over as if it just happened and work him self into a major lather. He will go from one person to the next trying to get us to agree with him and if we do then he makes more out of what happened.

I'm going nuts here.... Can someone tell me if this is the right place to be for some help or does anyone know of a site for support of siblings are retarded?
Help!
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