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To be frank....i don't think it's your husband's place to decide if what you're struggling with is to be a private matter or not. Those are HIS issues going on there, not yours! We are each human and none perfect...not even him. Please don't let him make you feel ashamed about getting help for yourself.

when i first discovered my diagnosis of bipolar disorder a few years ago amidst a major depressive episode...i talked about it as if it were the flu. I educated anybody who would listen and especially talked a lot about it with family members.

What good did it do? Well, once i figured out what was going on with me, I could see it was the SAME thing my dad had been struggling with all his life. He is now on proper meds and seeing a pdoc regularly. I also realized that my aunt (his sister) was an un-diagnosed bipolar who ended up accidentally over-dosing from her prescription med addiciton and leaving behind an 11-year-old daughter and a 6-year-old daughter (the 11-year-old having no father and having her sister taken away from her by the step-dad).

In ADDITION....my going to Alanon (because i was in love with a late-stage alcoholic) helped me to not only help myself learn healthier ways of life, but helped give my dad the courage to eventually admit he was an alcoholic and to attend AA.

Btw, I had known he was an alcoholic since I was 16 and he didn't admit it to me or himself until I was 29 (that's 13 years that I knew about his illness)!!

Me taking responsibility for my mental illness and educating myself, not only helps me, but also I know now what to look for in the children in our family -- so that NONE of them will have to end up suffering for years and not knowing why if they end up struggling with a mental illness.

Anyway, this is one time it will be best for you to think ONLY about how to best take care of you and what you're dealing with. The struggle is hard enough as it is....you don't need extra baggage from your husband weighing you down. right? right.