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mka,
I agree with what everyone here has suggested. I think we all go through this, but the key word is "through". I had a very tough time with my exagf because I wasn't just ending it with her, but her daughter who I loved as much as my own son. I found that everytime there was contact, and to this deal she still tried to manipulate her way back into my life, that my engaging just led to more hurt, more aggravation, and more doubt in myself as to knowing that what I was doing was the right thing for myself and for my son. Things won't get better, they will only get worse, and as long as well allow ourselves to believe everything they tell us, what we end up doing is believing what we want to, and not in the truth. Some may disagree with me here on this, but I do believe that the addict loves as much as is possible, that somewhere inside there is a part of them that does know how much they hurt others, but that that love is not good or healthy for anyone because the addict never puts anything first outside of their DOC. It hurts, but it does get better. When I recieve emails or phone calls from my exagf, I now do not respond. Guess what? Not responding is taking control of your own life and not giving it over to someone who couldn't care less about what you go through, because it really is all about them and only about them.
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