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Originally Posted by mike_mass  I relate to what you are going through. My wife and daughter arguing with each other are a real trigger for my anxiety...they are both very strong-willed women. Putting your fist through a wall WILL NOT SOLVE ANYTHING. You will simply play the fool in front of them and feel ashamed of yourself afterwards. Just walk away when they are fighting...far away. Good luck. |
I can't run away. I feel as though I have to be there for my wife. It's not so much a 2 way battle with both yelling at each other, it's my mother-in-law being lazy about everything and my wife getting upset with her. My mother-in-law has all day to do anything she wants. All my wife asks of her is to do 'everyday things' like getting up at a proper time, brushing her teeth and combing her hair, getting her own breakfast and doing her morning exercises etc. No chores or anything like that. Just usual stuff that is NOT LAYING IN BED. When she fails to do these things, or lies about doing them when we know she hasn't, it sets my wife off sometimes. My wife works really hard and has little time for herself. Then she has to come home and put meds together for my mother-in-law (Because if she doesn't, her mother will forget or mess up her own meds, which has happened before). Anyways, long ago (2 yrs ago) we kind of put up with it a bit, we thought it was just an adjustment to her moving in with us. We were wrong. She got lazy.
So when my wife gets upset, sometimes it's big, sometimes it's huge...but it always leads her to feeling bad about that, and then she starts to look at the other things that aren't going right in her life and that just makes her miserable which then makes me miserable.