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My mom too was a martyr. An alcoholic also, myself included we both are sober now. I am the youngest and was last one at home alone with her during some of the last part and worst part of her drinking. I've been sober this time 10 yrs on Aug 23rd, and have done lots of work on me, but still there are times when I still can get into the "wanna isolate and crawl in a hole" stuff. I think the biggest part of all of it is. . .keep on trying. I try to "act as if" until I feel it, believe it and that it comes 2nd nature. I am not near as negative as I used to be!!