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Kickass1 · 07-07-2007, 05:49 PM

Dear MyHeartMyLove,

Wow, when I read your post it's like what I am going through right now. My husband does the same as your husband along with berating me & there is very little affection. My husband is 10 yrs. older than me, he is 44 and I am 34 (young looking). I sleep on the couch while he sleeps on the bed. He doesn't kiss me and I have asked him why and he can only reply "I don't kiss anyone". We haven't been intimate in a year.

I just recently left my job for 7 years because we have decided to move down South. He said that this will give him an incentive to stop using and get a job. I have been supporting us and it has been very very hard.

Last year I had to have surgery and I was an outpatient. I remember that he came to pick me up but the nurses didn't let me leave just yet. He was very angry because he wanted to go and I kept telling him to relax, my goodness I was sick from the anesthesia. Well when the nurses helped me up to go to the bathroom I almost fainted. Jerk was angry w/me because it delayed me from leaving sooner. Well when we got home, it was because he wanted to go do his crap. No consideration for my feelings

Then there are the random times when he is silly, gives me hugs when I put my arms out - small not large tokens of affection from your partner.--Yes, my husband gives me hugs BUT when he wants money, Jerk...

I just have to say that there is 100% NOTHING wrong with you or me. I believe that we stay because we still believe that our husbands will change or there may be a slight chance that things will change and that we still love them.

Well this is my last chance because I am not only financially drained but emotionally and mentally.

MyHeartMyLove I wish you lots of love and happiness... Big hugs to you ((((((((((((((((((((((((((())))))))))))))))))))))) )))))))))

07-07-2007, 05:49 PM	#4 (permalink)
Kickass1 Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Wonderland Posts: 5	Dear MyHeartMyLove, Wow, when I read your post it's like what I am going through right now. My husband does the same as your husband along with berating me & there is very little affection. My husband is 10 yrs. older than me, he is 44 and I am 34 (young looking). I sleep on the couch while he sleeps on the bed. He doesn't kiss me and I have asked him why and he can only reply "I don't kiss anyone". We haven't been intimate in a year. I just recently left my job for 7 years because we have decided to move down South. He said that this will give him an incentive to stop using and get a job. I have been supporting us and it has been very very hard. Last year I had to have surgery and I was an outpatient. I remember that he came to pick me up but the nurses didn't let me leave just yet. He was very angry because he wanted to go and I kept telling him to relax, my goodness I was sick from the anesthesia. Well when the nurses helped me up to go to the bathroom I almost fainted. Jerk was angry w/me because it delayed me from leaving sooner. Well when we got home, it was because he wanted to go do his crap. No consideration for my feelings Then there are the random times when he is silly, gives me hugs when I put my arms out - small not large tokens of affection from your partner.--Yes, my husband gives me hugs BUT when he wants money, Jerk... I just have to say that there is 100% NOTHING wrong with you or me. I believe that we stay because we still believe that our husbands will change or there may be a slight chance that things will change and that we still love them. Well this is my last chance because I am not only financially drained but emotionally and mentally. MyHeartMyLove I wish you lots of love and happiness... Big hugs to you ((((((((((((((((((((((((((())))))))))))))))))))))) )))))))))