It's really good to see you, Little Lioness, and I'm glad your husband is still clean and can't believe your baby is already one.
Have you talked with your husband about sharing the chores? It really isn't fair for one person to do all the work. When I wasn't working (I took almost a year off) I was willing to do more because my husband worked 10 hours a day, but now that I'm working again too, it's all about sharing or paying someone else to do it. I refuse to work full time and try to be a full time housekeeper too...it just ain't a pretty sight.
Only you can decide what is best for you but if you have reached the point of thinking of ending the relationship then maybe some joint counseling would help too.
Hugs to all of you, especially the little one.