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Hi PP,
I would try not to get too caught up with the semantics. The important thing is how the meetings make you feel (and after awhile they should make you feel good!)
I personally had a really hard time with the way the first step was worded...I kept getting caught up on the word "alcohol." I had realized long ago I was powerless over alcohol. Plus, no one in my house was even drinking anymore, so the first step didn't make sense. I was getting frustrated! The same would happen when I would recite the three Cs in my head (didn't cause it, can't control it, can't cure it). Then one day while reading the Al Anon 12/12 (I think that was the book--the green and white one), I realized I could subsitute the word "anger" for the word "alcohol" and for some reason, it was a major breakthrough! Then I started using the three Cs in regards to RAB's temper tantrums, and that worked too! Now, I don't take the wording too seriously. I know a recovering alcoholic who loves Adult Children of Alcoholics meetings even though neither of her parents were users. It just works for her. I think that is the important thing.
Oh, by the way, I think Al Anon can be an acquired taste...don't give up and you will be glad in the long run!
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