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(((((((((((Poor sky))))))))) one of the worst things a person can face is fighting a system that calls all the shots! Yes, unfortunatly there is big money in adoptions and in foster care! You had a run of bad luck are you OK Now? do you have a home to provide for the kids, a job... Ugh, when I was young I went to go get help for myself and ended up losing my sons. No one would help me! I had no idea that I was giving up my boys. i thought I was going back to my marrage and everything was my fault,so i needed help. I was told to stay away from my husband because he was going to kill me and call SS to get my sons. Well, as it turns out thank god, the SS did not have a case against my hubby, so the kids stayed with him and he used those poor boys to torment me! At one point I did stop calling the boys because my mind could not take any more! So after I remarried and I went to school bla bla bla, I got to see my boys again because my ex felt with a husband that I was stable enough. I was never unstable only abused by my ex! So my one son almost died and I went to fight with everything I had to get full coustody. unfortunatly I was still afraid the courts would decide in his favor and he threatened to have my girl taken too! ha, I felt he could do it because eh did it before! That is when my PTSD came out in full force! And I also thought of me doing the same thing to my sons that he did to me and my sons about not letting him see them. to make a long story short (even my boys were brained washed by my ex and lied to the courts about not being neglected by their dad). So to this day my friend I will never ever go back to court for any of my kids unless it's a matter of life and death. No matter how much good a person does with their life,someone who wants their way will find away to distroy that person. Sounds like to me that is what this one social worker did to you and the system lets them get away with it. Ask yourself and this is so important. Can you handle being torn apart again and again by this buricratic a-s-s holes? don't fool yourself too and you probibly know this by working for legal aid ... all the lawyors and judges and Social Service people know eachother and "work the system" like a game. Before you even get to court they all have decided what and who you are without even getting to know you and your story! I use to work in the Public Defenders office and just was amazed at how they all joked around and laughed at the people who they were going to court for. I did look up a few numbers on the net for you,but it sounds like you have more than what I could help you with by you working for legal aid and such! It's all heart breaking for sure! i too spent tons of money on my sons and legal fees! Anyway,ha I got one boy living with me now! Gee he is 17 and a bit of a bully and I wish i had him live with me at a younger age to keep him from some of the bad habbits he has developed! I can try to look up legal rights of grandparents and any organizations that will help if you want. It sounds though you need a marical (sp) to get those kids back! Poor you! I'm so sorry for you!
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