[Dee74]

LC,
I read your 'whose fault' post...

what I went through was nothing to what you did...it was a friend of the family - he was disabled like me - I thought he was cool, I trusted him, and he took advantage of that - it was just one time, and he didn't do much more than put his hands down my shorts B4 I ran away, but it still f-d me up, and probably has had a large part in leading me into all the crap I was doing before I came here...hell, it was 30 years ago and I still can't post this publicly ! (but did anyway...OOPS...crap.)

people who are do this are sick....I'm not sure whether they actually believe it or not, but they will tell you they love you, and that this is the best way to show your love...yet in the next breath, they also say that you'll get in trouble if you tell, or that it was your fault anyway cos you wanted it, or that you're dirty...it's all lies and BS just so they can get what they want.

and it's natural for you to be conflicted...I mean I can barely work out relationships NOW - how are we supposed to deal with ALL OF THAT at 10 ?

and this was a person I looked up to, who I loved and trusted - it's harder to see what they said as lies because of all of that, but they are - they're just lies.

LC, You're not a thing, you've done nothing wrong, and you have nothing to be punished for. I hope you're coming to see that.

take care
Derek (D)

and, for what it's worth, I believe they do suffer - maybe we don't see it, maybe even they don't admit it, but I'll bet they do. You would have to be so kind of inhuman not to.