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Denny, I really wish there was another solution. My mother has been an alcoholic my whole life. She got sober for a while when I was 26 or so, and we tried going to counseling. It was disastrous. She was not willing to accept any responsibility for any of the bad choices she made, or the pain she caused me. She is still angry at the "incompetant" counselor, and was/is convinced we were both "attacking" her the whole time. Anytime she hears anything she doesn't want to hear, she is being attacked.
I am not cutting her off simply because she lied to me, that was just the last straw. I can no longer tolerate her emotional abuse. I practically have a panic attack whenever I have to talk to her on the phone.
She lives across the country from me, so she sees us maybe twice a year. I have no desire to manipulate her to do anything. I don't think it matters what I do. She will continue drinking and being a victim whether I am in the picture or not. I have considered an intervention, but I have my doubts that it would help. I fear she will continue drinking until it kills her. This thought kills me inside.
I do not know what the effect on my children will be if we have no more contact. I have thought a lot about this, and don't take it lightly. This is a very sad situation for everyone.
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