Ksos,
Of course you´re sad, and I´m sorry for your loss.
However, you have learned many important things about yourself and your disease. The future is before you and now you possess valuable information about your sexuality. I´ve known many people with similar past you and I are stuck with, to recover and be good and giving partners.
The problem I face right now - and have in the past - is what is the accepted level of masturbation and number of partners in sobriety?
I´ve run many Sex and Love Addiction groups in Paris, where I live, but I have never been able to pinpoint what is healthy and what is not. People have different level of libido, and our culture defines us as well. As a French woman I have different regards to sex then some other European people - no offense, Euros - and what my English ex-husband use to think depraved, I found normal, and other French friends agreed with me.
I think there is a fine line defining this, just like obese people have to struggle with. You have to eat, but how much? I find it even more difficult to define healthy sexual conduct.
I would like some feedback on this. Morning Glory, do you have the wisdom to know the difference?
Ksos, I hope you stay in touch and post. There is a real healing power in having support and real soon that support starts to work it´s magic.
