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OpenMindedLA · 05-16-2007, 05:36 PM

Hello All,

I have become increasingly suspicious of an in-law of mine who has been active in AA for almost twenty years and who has served as an AA sponsor to numerous individuals.

Specifically, my in-law is a male who exclusively sponsors women. To my knowledge, he has NEVER sponsored a man. In addition, the women whom he sponsors are almost always young and/or attractive women. One very young and attractive female whom he sponsored was actually invited into his home and stayed in their spare bedroom for several weeks on different occasions.

He also prevented that same young woman from spending time alone with men, probably a reflection of a rule that discourages an AA sponsoree from dating in the first year of their recovery. It seemed strange to me that a "rule" like this was enforced while the "rule" of same-sex sponsorship seems to have been easily overlooked.

I inquired with him as to why he has only sponsored women in AA to which he responded with a simple "...that's just the way it worked out with me."

Should I be suspicious of this behavior or is he simply being a good sponsor?

Thanks in advance for your thoughts.

05-16-2007, 05:36 PM	#1 (permalink)
OpenMindedLA Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Simi Valley, CA Posts: 3	Suspicious Behavior By An AA Sponsor Hello All, I have become increasingly suspicious of an in-law of mine who has been active in AA for almost twenty years and who has served as an AA sponsor to numerous individuals. Specifically, my in-law is a male who exclusively sponsors women. To my knowledge, he has NEVER sponsored a man. In addition, the women whom he sponsors are almost always young and/or attractive women. One very young and attractive female whom he sponsored was actually invited into his home and stayed in their spare bedroom for several weeks on different occasions. He also prevented that same young woman from spending time alone with men, probably a reflection of a rule that discourages an AA sponsoree from dating in the first year of their recovery. It seemed strange to me that a "rule" like this was enforced while the "rule" of same-sex sponsorship seems to have been easily overlooked. I inquired with him as to why he has only sponsored women in AA to which he responded with a simple "...that's just the way it worked out with me." Should I be suspicious of this behavior or is he simply being a good sponsor? Thanks in advance for your thoughts.