I am an adult child of an alcoholic and I come from a long line of family members of addictions. I and one other family member are the only two who have never had an addiction of any sort, never been into drugs, or major drinking ever. Although of course I am surround by family and friends who have this issue, makes me co-dependent. I think my sponsor wants me to go to understand my family situation better. Learn from the experience, not react, and find better ways to set boundaries with others. I am going to attend a meeting once a week regardless for me, whether my ABF is in my life or not. Every sponsor is different in their approach for healing. Mine believes that her sponsoree's should do both. I like her, so I will try it and see what happens.