Highlander...
It is very much a possibility that when your father died you
were absorbed in your wife's problems. Now that she is leaving
you feel as if the rug is pulled out from under you. You sound
as if you are going through a grief process....
There is healing light at the end of this tunnel. Therapy will
help, and sharing on the Friends and Families and Grief and Loss
Forums.
My best to you,
And welcome to SR!
Love,

:
Sherry