patchoulli,
If this man isn't the kind of person to whom you can say, "I really like your company but I am still very vulnerable, and I think we could be better friends when I've had more time to settle down".......
If this guy isn't the sort who can deal with this, then this guy doesn't deserve you.
Give it a try. What's the worst that can happen? He respects you because you know yourself and are taking care of your needs? You DON'T end up in a codependent relationship?
It's a shame that you're not superwoman, sure. But there is a healing process going on right now that is every bit as important as sex. Though some nights, I know from experience, it doesn't seem like it
Take care of YOU. If he's the kind of man you should be with, he will understand.
Love,
GL