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Old 09-22-2003, 08:27 PM   #1 (permalink)
Lilya
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Allowing people to get undir my skin

Oh boy, sometimes people attack in groups!

I´m so sick and tired of fighting with my mother, my alcoholic sister and a vicious sister-in-law. They are all siding against me and my other brother in the conflict the family is going through because of my father who is dying more every day in a nursinghome.

I love my father so much and we are so close. It breaks my heart to see him so unhappy in his last months.

It´s funny how people will always use your past against you. Probably human nature. I try to use everything the 12 step program has tought me - but there is no way I can reason with them. They just repeat everything ad infini and cannot speak clearly and directly about this difficult problem. If I stated my request calmly and clearly, they start screaming. They keep saying my mother is a saint and my father an awful man. The truth is my mother is a victim and has never been able to speak her mind clearly. I´m going nuts with co-ordinating with my father´s doctors and then have every plan knocked down by my mother, sister and sister-in-law.

I know I´m allowing them to irritate me, but I have difficulties being functional in an Addam´s Family.

Could someone give me some support, please? This is getting such a strain.

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