[DolphinBlue]

Thanks Paulie,

well, to be honest, the last thing I want to do sometimes is accept her for who she is. She just knows how to press my buttons I guess.

Its a lot better though. She just had a birthday last month and told me a lot of stuff about her own childhood that I didn't ever know. Lets just say it was an eye-opener and I enjoy seeing her as a person who did the best she could and not just my mother now. Not all the time, but it helps.

I find that its like looking at one of those optical illusions where you can only see one image at a time, even though there are two. When I'm seeing the person, I don't tend to see the behaviors.

But deep down I've got a feeling that I've missed something. How can I accept her just by changing my attitude? There doens't seem to be any healing involved, its like I've skipped something. I guess I'll just have to trust that it'll come up when it needs to.

Amy