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ok cynay....earlier on, when i first joined, you suggested to me, many times....no contact.....so why did you say it?
what were your reasons, and your experiences with no contact that made you a believer?
in some cases, i agree....in most cases, i agree.
if the contact hurts you, then i agree.
if the contact is with an unstable person, then i agree.
if the contact is with someone whose relationship is still important, somewhat healthy, and one feels can progress to a different level, then i disagree.
i still have contact with former lovers, and we are just friends. i don't think i am civilized enough to continue to rub elbows with them and their mates on a regular basis....in other words, i wouldn't want to play cards with them on a weekly basis.
i don't thnk i am understanding what you are asking.
if i were still in love with someone, i could not have casual contact without it hurting my feelings.
am i getting closer to understanding your question...if not, clarify for me if you want to, ok?
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