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this was tough for me. although any contact i had with my x was chaos, i still needed to hear from him in some sort of way. it kept me fed.
i wasn't ready to let go completely. so any sort of contact, whether negative or not, was satisfactory in a real sick way.
no contact is so different for so many people. cutting of the ties that bind are not that easy.....no black or white, cut and dry, yes or no....unless, of course there is danger of life.
it was a process for me. slowly, i had to let go. and all the while, people were chanting the mantra...no contact....no contact....no contact....
millions of people could have told me that, but i quit listening two seconds into their advice....because i wasn't ready yet.
i think that each person knows when the time is right for no contact. no magic formula.
hope some of this helps.
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