bv - i'm glad that things are working out for you...
in my situation, i needed to learn that loving her from afar was the best thing for me. of course, i'll always love her. that's why i stayed in the relationship so long. until my dying day, i know that i will absolutely love her. but i started to realize that i really needed to love myself. that no sane person who truly valued themselves and life would have let the drama in our relationship continue for as long as it had.
everyone is different, clearly, and i'm glad that you're here, keeping your mind open and recognizing that things may not always turn up so rosy. your friend that called you is right to a point - if you love her, you're going to put up with a lot, but there's no guarantee that things are going to get better... and that's the honest truth, not trying to be mean at all. it's a progressive disease, and i think that as long as you know that, you'll keep that in the back of your mind. who knows, just thinking out loud here
