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Letting her live her life as she chooses is not enabling. Enabling would be paying her bills if she spent her bill money on alcohol.
It would be making an excuse to her boss at work if she had a hangover and was too sick to make it to work. Enabling is doing something for her that she could or should be doing for herself, but the alcohol is stopping her from doing it. I know a lot of people who are functional, responsible alcoholics. Their drinking does not interfere with their responsibilities. That is their choice. When they start pulling you into the game then that changes everything.
Hugs,
MG
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