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karlee · 04-10-2007, 08:57 PM

My husband told me that the reason the family fights and I get moody is because of the music we listen too. I listen to rock which usually hard rock and the kids like rap. I figure that perhaps he is right on this. I know I have many issues including drugs alcohol, self-harmer,eating disorder, and am manic-depressive. My husband also has his own issues. My dad was abusive and controlling to my mom. I married my husband, at the age of 18, right out of high school. He is a loving and caring husband and father in many ways. However, he has a very violent temper. I never allow him to discipline the kids. I did when the kids were younger. However, he had lost his temper a couple of time. Which once gave our oldest so a black eye at the age of 7. We ended up with the school and everyone involved. From that time I never allowed him to discipline the kids. However, I so much need his help with our 3 sons... He goes into these violent rages and almost anything can set them off.He was like this during the years I was clean and when I was not clean. The reason I have never left because my husband makes very good money. I could never ever give our children the things my husband does. Plus, I am very afraid of my husband to leave him...He can be so loving and will do anything for me and the next minute totally different...I am dealing with this same kind of behavior now with my teen sons. My daughter's friend has a boyfriend is abusive.I had a talked to my daughter about this. Her reply back to me was that all men are like that. She then mention that her dad treats me that way. Boy was this shock...Recently, I been having some issues with my daughter...She told me she is tired of the fighting between me and my dad. She was very upset about the way her dad and his rages. I feel it is all my fault because of the drugs and everything. I try to keep the house spotless.
I have tried everything. I do not know if I should stay or is I should run. If I run then where do I run to...Perhaps all my issues is what drives my husband to his rages. Then again he is like this when I am completely clean. I am really hurt for all what my daughter told me yesterday. Then again I probably needed hear these things. For once I need to put my kids first, but I do not know how to do so..

04-10-2007, 08:57 PM	#1 (permalink)
karlee Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Utah Posts: 80	Confused?! My husband told me that the reason the family fights and I get moody is because of the music we listen too. I listen to rock which usually hard rock and the kids like rap. I figure that perhaps he is right on this. I know I have many issues including drugs alcohol, self-harmer,eating disorder, and am manic-depressive. My husband also has his own issues. My dad was abusive and controlling to my mom. I married my husband, at the age of 18, right out of high school. He is a loving and caring husband and father in many ways. However, he has a very violent temper. I never allow him to discipline the kids. I did when the kids were younger. However, he had lost his temper a couple of time. Which once gave our oldest so a black eye at the age of 7. We ended up with the school and everyone involved. From that time I never allowed him to discipline the kids. However, I so much need his help with our 3 sons... He goes into these violent rages and almost anything can set them off.He was like this during the years I was clean and when I was not clean. The reason I have never left because my husband makes very good money. I could never ever give our children the things my husband does. Plus, I am very afraid of my husband to leave him...He can be so loving and will do anything for me and the next minute totally different...I am dealing with this same kind of behavior now with my teen sons. My daughter's friend has a boyfriend is abusive.I had a talked to my daughter about this. Her reply back to me was that all men are like that. She then mention that her dad treats me that way. Boy was this shock...Recently, I been having some issues with my daughter...She told me she is tired of the fighting between me and my dad. She was very upset about the way her dad and his rages. I feel it is all my fault because of the drugs and everything. I try to keep the house spotless. I have tried everything. I do not know if I should stay or is I should run. If I run then where do I run to...Perhaps all my issues is what drives my husband to his rages. Then again he is like this when I am completely clean. I am really hurt for all what my daughter told me yesterday. Then again I probably needed hear these things. For once I need to put my kids first, but I do not know how to do so..