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hi,
I am absolutely a novice in all of this but I think you are just totally overwhelmed and I can see why. If there wasn't much "drama" in your life before all of this then I imagine your dh longs for it to be the way it was, you know? Without all of the family issues. I know my dh was like that because my AS is my husband's stepson and he did everything for my son as he was growing up.....he really went the extra mile for him and now we are working with the addicition card and have a grandchild as well..............so if I offer any advice I'd say be kind to yourself and those that you love. You have totally stepped up to the plate and cared for those precious children and that speaks volumes for your character. Know that you are the steadying influence on those precious children (yours and your sister's children). Let your husband know , when the timing is right, that you need his support and guidance. Sometimes it is so hard to go to the ones we love and ask for help but usually it pays off. I tell my dh what his support means to me. I tell him if the truth be known I am ashamed of what my son has done and if I could change things I would but it isn't in my power to do that and that if he could just bear with me I'd appreciate it and then he seems to understand what a toll all of this has taken on me. It has affected so many people in my home. They say the actions of the addicted person involve (affect) at least 37 people. I believe that......like a ripple affect. Isn't that amazing how one person can affect so many? But I do believe it. Know that you have support here and that you are not traveling this road alone. I am so proud of you for being so honest. You really deserve the best in life. You take care and know that people here do care. You and yours are in my prayers tonight. hugs, dixie
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