|
The question I would ask is: "What are you feeling guilty about?"
There is real guilt and assumed guilt. And then there is remorse and regret, which often turn into self-pity.
I remember telling my first sponsor that I felt guilty. He said that I probably felt guilty because I had been living in such a manner that would cause one to feel guilty. I remember feeling really bad about how I had hurt the ones I loved. I experienced a lot of remorse over that stuff. But one of the awakenings I had early on was seeing the lies for what they were: lies. One of my delusions was that I hadn't hurt anyone other than myself. And I saw that for what it was.
I began to get free in the inventory process, but really was set free in the eight and ninth steps. The housecleaning process helps me to see that this deal really isn't about me anymore.
Jim
|