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**CatsPajamas** · 03-20-2007, 12:36 PM

The fact that I could HAVE a boundary was such a novel one to me... and even then I had to learn them and practice them in stages. I learned quickly that the only thing worse than no boundary was a boundary with no follow thru or consistency.

As I first began setting boundaries, I didn't have the strength to back them up. My loved ones would just push a little harder and I would crumble, and/or I would exhibit one or more of the symptoms described above.

It took time for me to learn how to set an appropriate boundary AND how to back it up.

Time takes time! And I'm glad I stuck with it, because having boundaries means I am much more serene and in touch with myself and my feelings.

~ Cat

03-20-2007, 12:36 PM	#3 (permalink)
CatsPajamas Forum Leader Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: In my little piece of heaven Posts: 2,980	The fact that I could HAVE a boundary was such a novel one to me... and even then I had to learn them and practice them in stages. I learned quickly that the only thing worse than no boundary was a boundary with no follow thru or consistency. As I first began setting boundaries, I didn't have the strength to back them up. My loved ones would just push a little harder and I would crumble, and/or I would exhibit one or more of the symptoms described above. It took time for me to learn how to set an appropriate boundary AND how to back it up. Time takes time! And I'm glad I stuck with it, because having boundaries means I am much more serene and in touch with myself and my feelings. ~ Cat __________________ What other people think of me is really none of my business!