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Originally Posted by lovelife  how can i not let negative things said to me make me feel worse about myself then i already do? it seems to be that no one sees anything good in me and they voice it. it hurts and i am slowly losing the ground i have made in my recovery from depression. i can't vent on my blog or to friends on and offline without being told i am an attention ***** and having the past throw at me. people want me to change and they say i'm not trying anf stuff because i haven't shown any change. i'm sick of it. |
Lovey,
How long have you been trying to make changes in your life? HistoryTeach gave you some very good things to think about. Sometimes the only person with us is us.
For me, I found that when I took a leap of faith and starting working on my self, others started to notice. If you are sincerely trying to change and people around you are still unsupportive, stay away from those people. I confess that I'm guilty of wanting attention sometimes and the easiest way to get it is to play the martyr. I'm saying this just about me, not about anyone else. I was in an AA meeting long ago when someone continued to whine about their problems over and over again. Finally, a gentleman spoke up and said "Get off the Cross, we need the Wood!" I've kept that phrase in my mind over the years to check myself when I start thinking that everyone's against me.
Again, for me, the way to staying positive is to do something positive. The negative reactions of others give me a good excuse to feel sorry for myself. Some folks, including myself, will take any attention they can get, even if it's negative. I see many children like that today. No one pays attention to them so they do anything they can to get it.
I don't know whether you're active in any recovery program, AA, etc., but there are spiritual tools available for you to use. They may be heavy tools to lift in the beginning, but they've worked for millions of people around the world.
Yours in sobriety,
Ed