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Originally Posted by try try again  I can't function without him (or at least I don't think I can). |
Ask yourself (your mind, not heart). Is this true? What proof is there? What proof do you have to the contrary?
[/QUOTE]My drunk is my addiction and I don't know how to recover from him or even if I should.[/QUOTE]
All addictions are unhealthy. To me, I define addiction as something that I KNOW is bad for me, but that I WANT anyway.
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I'm a full time college student and mother and live in a small town and my kids are already alone too much now that their Dads gone, so I can't drive to a meeting, or even probably find one near here I can make it to on a regular basis. [/QUOTE]
Perhaps someone has more info for your area. One hour one night a week (for a meeting) won't trauamatizing your children, if they have already been alone before. Some meetings do offer childcare.
[/QUOTE] I've tried it before and I replaced my addiction with an addiction for meetings and met a lot more loser guys there and screwed my life up worse than it was already.[/QUOTE]
You might try an all-women's meeting...I think these are easier for me, to keep me from my addictive relationship issues (and ooh, do I still have them! Dangit) to talk more freely about relationship/sex issues.
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should I just give up and give in to my incredibly screwed up life and the fact that I will never be successful? [/QUOTE]
Again...where is your proof that it's a "fact" that you will "never" anything?
Hang in there, and give yourself a brake, okay (mispelled on purpose)? You've taken a brave first baby step by posting here. Ala-non, Nar-anon and similar programs will most likely give you the best help. Even if you don't like the meetings, you can always go once and borrow or buy some pamphlets, books or tapes, and utilize them in the three minutes you have to yourself every now and again...lol...I used them to "fill in the gaps" between the very l-o-ong week between ACOA and AA meetings...now I'm working on OA, too.