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Sophia57 · 03-06-2007, 02:35 PM

Thanks everyone for your replies.
When I say he's active in AA i mean he goes to lots of meetings, but as he works shifts, a week may go by sometimes when he cant get to one. He's also done a lot of service work in prisons and helplines.
He works long hours and hates it. He feels he has nothing to carry on for.
He's so touchy at the moment I have to watch every word. He just hung up on me cos he'd asked me a question about a conflict in work..I got distracted, missed what he said, he got really angry that I wasnt listening, said he didnt need this and hung up.

If this cycle is going to come around every 5 years or so Satit I dont know if I can stick it.
He hasn't had a sponsor for years. He falls out with people in AA all the time as he's so paranoid about everyones actions and words.
Barto, I've never asked him about his program as I dont think its my business, you understand what I mean. I couldn't pry into what he has done - all I know is that he did the steps years ago.
I hope this will pass, but it hurts when he takes it out on me, and I dont want to play the victim. I really am powerless over what happens and I have to focus on me, tho I feel so down I cant see the point

Thanks again so much

03-06-2007, 02:35 PM	#6 (permalink)
Sophia57 Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Ireland Posts: 152	Thanks everyone for your replies. When I say he's active in AA i mean he goes to lots of meetings, but as he works shifts, a week may go by sometimes when he cant get to one. He's also done a lot of service work in prisons and helplines. He works long hours and hates it. He feels he has nothing to carry on for. He's so touchy at the moment I have to watch every word. He just hung up on me cos he'd asked me a question about a conflict in work..I got distracted, missed what he said, he got really angry that I wasnt listening, said he didnt need this and hung up. If this cycle is going to come around every 5 years or so Satit I dont know if I can stick it. He hasn't had a sponsor for years. He falls out with people in AA all the time as he's so paranoid about everyones actions and words. Barto, I've never asked him about his program as I dont think its my business, you understand what I mean. I couldn't pry into what he has done - all I know is that he did the steps years ago. I hope this will pass, but it hurts when he takes it out on me, and I dont want to play the victim. I really am powerless over what happens and I have to focus on me, tho I feel so down I cant see the point Thanks again so much