[BigSis]

Hey Cuba... my brother had the "best" marriage. We all thought so. They married very young, and just grew up together. Had four children. Went through a lot to get those kids.

Then one day I heard he had an affair, and she was leaving him. Good! I thought, any man who would do those things was .... fill in the blanks.

But, like you, I think they realized there was a LOT more to their marriage than they had realized, and much they had taken for granted. They tried just "reconciling", but the bitterness from the wife (justifiable, but nearly intolerable) was overwhelming. They did go to counseling, and it helped. And over time, things got better.

I hope you can find a good marriage counselor and get in several sessions. This is a BIG thing to overcome, but it certainly CAN be overcome if both partners want it enough.

It just won't happen right away. And that is the hardest part. You won't get back what you had, but what you get back just might be bigger and stronger than what you had.

I wish you well.