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starbelly · 01-30-2007, 09:47 AM

I am new to this message board, and pretty new to Alanon, but not new at all to the problems and pain of drug addiction. I have alcoholism in all sides of my family, and in the biological father of my children’s family.

My son has been struggling with addiction to pot (which I didn’t even know could be addicting), alcohol, and psychedelics for years. Last year, when he was still a minor, he dropped out of school, moved out and ended up in a mental hospital for depression after a 6 week mushroom and lsd binge. We took him back home and forced him into recovery. I have health insurance, but it doesn’t cover CD or recovery, so we went to NA instead. He has clean for 4 months and it was wonderful. He went to NA but didn’t work the program; he still said that he would go back to smoking pot. He turned 18 in October, starting smoking pot again in November and moved out in December. I told him that he couldn’t come back home after he went on another drug binge. Since he moved out he lost his apartment, owes everyone money, hasn’t have a job, has sold his plasma 6 times, lost all his clothes and belongings, been arrested for drug related stuff, spent 5 days in jail, and looks and SMELLS like a bum.

I realized that I was so insane and depressed a month ago that I started to go to counseling and alanon. In alonon I started to feel a peace and hope that I haven’t had in so long. I am going to keep going.

Yesterday I was reading the boards and I realized for the first time that my son is truly an addict. Ironicaly, last night he showed up on our doorstep in tears-saying that he was wrong and can’t do it on his own, that he needs help. He has never admitted that he has a problem, and has never asked for help before. I know that alanon is about me and not my addict son, but I need to make some decisions and take action. Is it always co-dependency to help out? For people with expereince dealing with addiction personaly, what advice would you give your concerned mother? He is young and I believe that he needs a helping hand, but I want to help him not disable him.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

01-30-2007, 09:47 AM	#1 (permalink)
starbelly Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Boise, Idaho Posts: 1	mom looking for advice with addcit son I am new to this message board, and pretty new to Alanon, but not new at all to the problems and pain of drug addiction. I have alcoholism in all sides of my family, and in the biological father of my children’s family. My son has been struggling with addiction to pot (which I didn’t even know could be addicting), alcohol, and psychedelics for years. Last year, when he was still a minor, he dropped out of school, moved out and ended up in a mental hospital for depression after a 6 week mushroom and lsd binge. We took him back home and forced him into recovery. I have health insurance, but it doesn’t cover CD or recovery, so we went to NA instead. He has clean for 4 months and it was wonderful. He went to NA but didn’t work the program; he still said that he would go back to smoking pot. He turned 18 in October, starting smoking pot again in November and moved out in December. I told him that he couldn’t come back home after he went on another drug binge. Since he moved out he lost his apartment, owes everyone money, hasn’t have a job, has sold his plasma 6 times, lost all his clothes and belongings, been arrested for drug related stuff, spent 5 days in jail, and looks and SMELLS like a bum. I realized that I was so insane and depressed a month ago that I started to go to counseling and alanon. In alonon I started to feel a peace and hope that I haven’t had in so long. I am going to keep going. Yesterday I was reading the boards and I realized for the first time that my son is truly an addict. Ironicaly, last night he showed up on our doorstep in tears-saying that he was wrong and can’t do it on his own, that he needs help. He has never admitted that he has a problem, and has never asked for help before. I know that alanon is about me and not my addict son, but I need to make some decisions and take action. Is it always co-dependency to help out? For people with expereince dealing with addiction personaly, what advice would you give your concerned mother? He is young and I believe that he needs a helping hand, but I want to help him not disable him. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.