[Nina Kay]

I've just been informed that I'm tactless sometimes, in how I talk to others, mostly when stating my opinion. I've always known that I can be very blunt. Then lately I've come to realize that I can be harsh, alot of times. Now, I have to add to that tactless. The thing is about that, is that I am also the other extreme too, as I am an extremist in every area of my life. I have tried for years to learn how to strike a happy medium. I have progressed some, but I just still have so far to go. I've had people that are just getting to know me, say that they can't imagine me ever being in a bad mood, because I'm always so happy, but I now tell them the truth, so that they won't be too blown away when they see the other extreme side of me. I let people know now that as extreme as I am happy, that's as extreme as I can be the other direction. For most of my life, people saw me as the happy, loving, sweet person and then when they crossed me or used me too unreasonably for too many times, the other side of me, setting them straight in no uncertain terms, would come out suddenly and they wouldn't have a clue how to handle that. They would usually hate me and never speak to me again. Or as I realize right this minute, maybe they just didn't feel like they could trust me anymore to be honest?! Who knows?! It took me years to figure out that much of what was going on in my relationships with others.