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Glass Prisoner,
I know what you mean. After doing the stepwork in AA I thought I had come to a certain peace with my past and had forgiven my parents. Issues are coming up now that were not apparent to me 12 years ago in early recovery. To deny that things that happened in my childhood had a wounding impact on me would be, well, denial. This isn't so much about "blaming" parents as it is about recognizing why we do what we do, what needs weren't met, what grieving was left unfinished, etc.
I feel that I learned how to stay sober in AA and now I need to heal other parts of myself. I have heard others say similar things like I learned how to stop drinking in AA. Now I need to learn how to live (in AL-anon).
I too, had/have the attitude that I have forgiven my parents already. Last night I ws reading,"Healing the Child Within." and read that saying one has already forgiven their parents for their childhoods is one of the ways that people "protect" their parents from their potential undealt with anger. It made me think about whether I was doing this. Food for thought.
Kathleen
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